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 Standing In the Winner's Circle 

For the month of April Romantic issues

Whether big or small, we can learn how to deal with relationship problems through healthy communication, mutual respect, and compromise. It's good for partners to learn how to discuss relationship problems without fighting, and to try to resolve relationship problems without breaking up.

Some of these common challenges may include infidelity, loss of intimacy, communication difficulties, coping with stress challenges, financial pressures, boundary violations, difficulty balancing individual and couple expectations, divorce, separation and breaking up.

Giving your partner enough time to convey their feelings, including their logic and opinions. On top of that, do not intervene while they are saying. Instead, listen and try to understand each point closely. To ensure the talk is successful, you both need to give each other enough chances.

Everybody needs emotional support, but it can be challenging to know how and when to provide it. To create a healthy relationship, you want your partner to know you're there for them, while still being mindful of your own mental well-being.

If you find you are giving care and comfort to the point where you are feeling burned out, drained, and resentful, this is a sign that you are becoming burned out overextending yourself. At this point, it is important to take care of yourself and encourage or support your partner in seeking additional support from friends, community members, or a therapist.

God’s Word, of course, and all Scripture is breathed out by God and is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness.

Three principles then, God’s rules for romance.

Number one – Romantic love should be protected. 

Sex is not an evil thing made permissible by marriage, but a good thing protected by marriage.  This is the embrace of romance in Song of Solomon 2:3 “His left hand under my head, his right hand embraces me.” the description here speaks to the woman as she feels secure, protected, cared for. His left hand is under my head, his right hand is embracing me. Their physical embrace is an expression of emotional, spiritual, physical protection. She feels secure.

Number two – Romantic love should be verbalized.

The wedding has not taken place, the relationship is building, but you notice he’s speaking of her cheeks, her face, her eyes. Song of Solomon 1:15 “Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful; your eyes are doves.” So we’ve moved to the wedding day; the man admires his bride’s beauty Song of Solomon 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.1 Corinthians 7: 4 – The husband has authority over his wife’s body, the wife has authority over the husband’s body. It’s not a selfish possession but it’s a rightful possession. You are mine, you’re mine. Your lips drip nectar, my bride, honey and milk are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.

Third – Romantic love should be celebrated. What we know from God’s Word – sexual intimacy in marriage is a gift to be enjoyed and celebrated. The lack of sexual intimacy for a woman is often the result of a marriage going bad.That is to say, the lack of sexual intimacy is often for the woman a sign that she does not feel close to her husband in any other way and so why would she want to draw close to him in this most intimate of ways.

Chapter 4. The beloved, who started out, remember, they meet, I want to kiss him, his description of her is from the neck up. 

Chapter 4, verse 8: “Come with me from Lebanon, my bride.”

Verse 9: “You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride.”

Verse 10: “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!”

Verse 12: “A garden locked is my sister, my bride.” They are at that moment where their relationship is going to be consummates with act of sexual intimacy. Job is about the riddle of suffering, Ecclesiastes is about the riddle of existence, and Song of Solomon is about the riddle of sex. Perhaps the three great mysteries in life. The Bible ends with a bride calling for her husband to come that they may romantic love together. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it.” God in His Word uses this bride and groom overcome with love as an imagery in many Bible verses.